tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post4169266780366892890..comments2023-02-14T06:23:54.154-05:00Comments on A Former Leader's Journey: Husband ReplacementBarbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04357293290630832549noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-39718111998452825352008-12-05T18:43:00.000-05:002008-12-05T18:43:00.000-05:00thank you for your honesty in stating that you had...thank you for your honesty in stating that you had to repent for such thinking. I think it's unreasonable on both parties, the husband and the spouse to place unreasonable expectations of our perfect mate upon each other.<BR/><BR/>I believe this is why the relationship of marriage should be focused more on the give than the get, much like how Jesus in his relationship with us, did not measure how much we gave him, but gave his all on the cross.<BR/><BR/>Of course, easier said than done, but the example is there. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-12830606412657274662008-11-12T12:32:00.000-05:002008-11-12T12:32:00.000-05:00I will speak only as a husband. With all my short ...I will speak only as a husband. With all my short comings I would die for my wife. I don't care if it is a pastor or the man next door.....when they ain't living with you 24/7 it is easy to come across as though they may be special in a husbands weak spots. But mark it down and book it........your husband may not always be right but my guess is he is the only man in the world that would "die" for you because he loves you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-62224765919196445232008-11-10T11:53:00.000-05:002008-11-10T11:53:00.000-05:00Excellent post, Barb. I actually linked to this t...Excellent post, Barb. I actually linked to this today on my blog (yes, I'm actually posting!!) because one of your paragraphs really struck me.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the inspiration! And thanks for the words of this post. It is definitely a good word.<BR/><BR/>steve :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-23520691597438006872008-11-10T02:29:00.000-05:002008-11-10T02:29:00.000-05:00Wow, this is awesome!!I never thought about it, bu...Wow, this is awesome!!I never thought about it, but this is really what used to happen with us as well. I always looked up to Nestus, spiritually too, but early on in our marriage he went through a bad patch spiritually (or so I thought), he did not want to go to church, read Bible or do any of the rituals that I expected. But he never stopped being a caring man, looking around to find those in need, never stopped showing Jesus. I insisted in us getting involved with one church after the other, as none seemed to provide what we really needed. <BR/>I do not even know when I stopped looking for "spiritual leadership" in all kinds of other "father figures". Now that I think about it, I only realize how much further we came since starting to lean on each other. And despite his weaknessed (very much the same ones you mentioned), he turned out to be strong and sturdy in the things that matter!! <BR/>Thank you for this, I am now totally overwhelmed with gratefullness for what my loving Father gave me!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-10089395878004620022008-11-09T17:20:00.000-05:002008-11-09T17:20:00.000-05:00Uh yeah -- guilty, actually. Used to do it al the...Uh yeah -- guilty, actually. Used to do it al the time but now that I am almost never around Christian men it doesn't come up much lol<BR/><BR/>So heck, run out and buy yourself a "I want to be a Pastor's wife" t-shirt from Lark News. ;)Tyler Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17021870354703680808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-25088840165385298142008-11-09T12:07:00.000-05:002008-11-09T12:07:00.000-05:00This is a very open post and I love it! You have m...This is a very open post and I love it! You have moved one gigantic step forward here that most people never do and I am chuffed for you!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Trust is vulnerable.. trust is difficult and it is easier to trust someone that you think has it together.. I think many of us do it. <BR/><BR/>Amen on your last paragraph. Bless you for sharing this!getting therehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16130016276289922604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-48621030209850162022008-11-08T10:20:00.000-05:002008-11-08T10:20:00.000-05:00Very thoughtful and vulnerable.Very thoughtful and vulnerable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-53420187544474861642008-11-07T20:32:00.000-05:002008-11-07T20:32:00.000-05:00Barb, Thanks for the great advice and encouragemen...Barb, <BR/>Thanks for the great advice and encouragement. I think it's a good safety net for marriages.<BR/>-Mel Winstead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-70992347549851194822008-11-06T18:32:00.000-05:002008-11-06T18:32:00.000-05:00:) nicely said:) nicely saidTera Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07076220436921989470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-40021599080110666492008-11-06T15:56:00.000-05:002008-11-06T15:56:00.000-05:00Larry, I'm hoping that I don't cause any fights to...Larry, I'm hoping that I don't cause any fights tonight between husbands who read this and their wives. Maybe all women are not like me. I would love to know though how many have struggled with it.<BR/><BR/>Ruth the grass is greener is a good analogy but in the case of Chrisitian women - we would never look for the greener grass as far as a physical relationship. But the spiritual one....hm - doesn't seem to be that bad huh?<BR/><BR/>Aussie John, Wow, thanks. I would have never figured it out unless I had stepped outside the system and then been plunged back in for that instant. I was completely blind to it.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04357293290630832549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-11825131533493094582008-11-06T15:17:00.000-05:002008-11-06T15:17:00.000-05:00For many years I have tried teach such as you have...For many years I have tried teach such as you have written, and have waited a long time to read such as you have written, Thank you for being sensitive to the Holy Spirit!Aussie Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16199918171163666399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-2853654508410840812008-11-06T13:38:00.000-05:002008-11-06T13:38:00.000-05:00Thanks for this Barb. It really hits home for me e...Thanks for this Barb. It really hits home for me expecially since my husband isn't a Christian. <BR/><BR/>It's so true in many aspects of husband/wife relationships. The grass is greener on the other side is a huge lie from Satan and we buy into it.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02024613458911435527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-246437973827092428.post-27428428486042865252008-11-06T13:14:00.000-05:002008-11-06T13:14:00.000-05:00THANK YOU!THANK YOU!Larry Eisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17983922285845751993noreply@blogger.com